Making fun of girls who dream of being a wife and stay-at-home-mom actually doesn’t make you progressive or feminist or cool, it just makes you a person who shits on someone else’s dream, a.k.a an asshole
Whenever someone says that I say “Okay, whatever floats your boat, I guess” and then I think “Why would she want that? Isn’t it boring to just sit around all day and do nothing?”
Moms don’t “sit around all day and do nothing” - they have a incredibly important 24/7 job: raising little human beings. Don’t devalue that by calling it “nothing”.
Man, my mom cooked, cleaned, paid the bills, went grocery shopping, did my hair every morning before school and every night (which, as a white woman with no prior experience of doing black hair, especially on a tender-headed child, is no easy feat). She helped with my homework, consoled me after a bad day, frequently volunteered at the school. She even picked my anxious, crying ass up from kindergarten early nearly every day for the first semester and would lie down with me every night when I was a child until I fell asleep (and that usually took several hours). That’s not even scratching the surface of all the things she’s done for me and my siblings. She was always the first person up and the last person to go to bed. Nothing about what she did, and continues to do to a lesser degree, is easy.
Domestic work is constantly undervalued even though every family depends on it. My grandmother on my mom’s side would go hungry just so her kids could eat - that is not nothing.
Also, if you would commend a man for being a stay at home dad and doing exactly what women have been doing for centuries, don’t pretend you care about women’s labor.
We literally live at work. We’re literally never off the clock. We literally never stop working.
Before anyone gets their britches in a twist that I’m on the internet and “not working” right now, I am working. I’m researching and price comparing things we need to fix problems around the house.
So far every man in my life with the stay at home dad job does not do as much as the women who are stay at home mothers. The wife with a stay at home dad will actually come home from work and cook/clean/whatever. He really doesn’t. The woman I know that’s a stay at home mother, does everything. She’s doing one online class at a time to get her masters, she’s cleaning, cooking, shopping for groceries, she’s with her kids the entire time.
(via whatshouldntbe)
